Your Opinion is Not My reality

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People are quick to judge. It comes easy. What doesn’t come easy is the power of observation. How hard is it to just observe people and not judge ? For a lot of people – Impossible.

A  judgmental mind is a weak mind. It’s a threatened mind. It’s a cynical mind. Cynicism is ok sometimes because one should not plainly accept what is being given to them in life. One  has to and should question it. But to question just for the heck of it , or let’s say out of habit is so not cool .People always want to see what they want to see and not see what really exists. This attitude , this bent of mind ain’t right.

Don’t try to seek answers that you want to hear. Be open minded.Be evolved and learn to accept the truth as it is without judging people because if you can’t , you’re a mess for life. Each one of us including me has judged sometime in life. The only difference is that some of us ‘grow’ and get evolved to not judge again.Others just can’t let go of the cynicism. When strangers try to make an opinion about us based on their own short comings it doesn’t really matter. But when our close people do it, it hurts because they know us so well. So why should they judge us ? Should they not understand what we feel or think ? Or at least make an effort to understand our point of view ? Even if their stance is different from ours , what is the point of judging? Just accept the differences without being cynical about it.

William Shakespeare mentions in his play, The Merchant of Venice that ,”it is easy to give a sermon to to a crowd but it is extremely difficult to be a part of the same crowd and follow that sermon yourself.”  This is the problem the world faces. People want to preach and preach all the time without ever doing it themselves. It takes a lot of nerve to ‘not’ hold back people in life. It takes guts to trust people with their decisions. Sadly, very very few people do that.  From the very beginning, Society teaches us to ‘”Always be yourself.” Ironically when that actually happens it doesn’t approve of our ways. The moment when we are confronted with a situation like this where we stand conflicted,  is the time when we should decide  whether we will bow down to the fear that society wants to inflict on us or whether we will live each day our own way. The choice is always ours.

Akriti Mattu


  1. I have been a victim of these kind of judgements both by my closed ones and strangers. It has always hurt me a lot and people never have understood me I have become immune now to everything. Reading this was lime reading my own life. The best words chosen to write this by a best writer I respect and learn a lot from. Becoming immune to people’s frivolous,flimsy and false opinions about is something every one should adapt but also a journey to know yourself and self realisation is important before achieving that immunity.

  2. “Judging” by your blog ur one he’ll of a writer ! Did I miss the point here ? Haha… Mwah !

    • Hell yes .. coz ‘ people who constantly judge lose out precious time which they could have used in elevating themselves. According to Freud – The greatest psychoanalyst till date ,” a judgmental person suffers from acute inferiority complex. Hence the constant criticism and bickering.” Personally, i feel the same. I mean each one of us is different .Our situations/experiences are different. Who are we to judge. A strong elevated mind belongs to the individual who thinks out of box.

  3. Hi,
    I agree with what you wrote about opinion versus reality. Thank you for your visit to my site on Saturday. I’m glad you liked my post “How to Get Loyal Visitors to…”. I’m sorry I couldn’t come by to visit you and thank you sooner.
    Janice, Reflections

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